This story was originally published in March of 2013, but we brought it back again for all you guys who need some good Valentine’s Day ideas…
So you took our advice, put on a fresh get up and charmed her with one of our last date ideas. Now there’s a text sitting in your inbox–she wants date numero dos. And maybe that first date was so good…that it was almost too good. And now, you’re anxiously asking yourself, will the sophomore outing live up to the big debut? Or will you end up another one-hit wonder? The thought of playing it safe and going with the ol’ local dine and flick trick was an ephemeral one…because the word “settle” doesn’t exist in the vocabulary of a gentleman like yourself. Unless it’s to settle a bet with a duel. But we digress. If you’re on date #2 and stuck on ideas, here are five more that will keep things moving along:
Date Idea #1: Get ya Van Gogh on. (Pottery Making / Painting Class)
We get it. It may seem a bit…feminine. But women really like pretty things and even more that, they like making pretty things. Pottery making or painting gives them an opportunity create their own pretty thing. They may discover a hidden talent…or you may discover your hidden talent for flattery or charm. Either way, it’s an opportunity for you to be encouraging, while poking some fun at her at the same time.
So help her tie that smock and start transforming some clay, together. Tell her that your mutual creation will look nice on your kitchen table, especially by candlelight, where you’ll eat the dinner you plan on cooking her on date #3. Maybe, just maybe, you’ll even get a head start and take your pretty date home along with your pretty (or very, very ugly) Aztec-inspired bowl. Just make sure you wear something that will still look nice with some complementary splashes of clay or paint.
- Levi’s Barstow Denim Shirt
- Alternative Fit Gray Henley
- Acne Roc UPS Slim-Fit Washed-Denim Jeans
- Frank & Oak Burgundy Beanie
- Club Monaco Mint Chad Cord Bracelet
- River Island Washed Boots
Date Idea #2: DUMBO (Brooklyn)
Unless it’s straight for the Hamptons in the summertime, some Manhattanites might scoff at the idea of ever leaving their beloved borough. But Brooklyn has lots to offer, especially on the weekends when Manhattan is flooded with tourists. If you’ve never been to BK, start with DUMBO (for our non-NYC readers, that’s not a theme park for flying pink elephants but rather, Down Under the Manhattan Bridge Overpass).
There, you’ll find gems like the Brooklyn Bridge Park where you can relax, sip some grown-up beverages and enjoy views of both the Brooklyn Bridge and the Manhattan Bridge. As you walk, stop by Jane’s Carousel for a ride or Powerhouse Books for some coffee table book shopping. Grab some brick-oven pizza at the renowned Grimaldi’s (tip: call ahead and get it to go to skip the lines!) or make reservations at The River Café, where you can enjoy a romantic meal and enjoy priceless views of downtown Manhattan. The open spaces and scenic views of DUMBO mean you’ll be filling the time with good conversation – there’s no better way to see if two are a good fit. Just make sure your clothes are a good fit too.
Not in New York? No sweat. Replace DUMBO with your own local hip waterfront neighborhood.
- AllSaints Stenburg Leather Jacket
- J. Crew White Secret Wash Shirt
- AllSaints Spectrum Scarf (with one of these knots)
- Burberry Brit Shoreditch Slim-Fit Jeans
- Mougin & Piquard Chronograph Watch
- ASOS Leather Work Boots
Date Idea #3: Nothing says “next level romance” like throwing yourself out of a plane. (Sky Diving)
She’s either into it or she’s not. But if she’s down – Hell. Yes. And one thing is for sure, your relationship will certainly be taken up a notch post jump. Just make sure you actually have the cojones to follow through because if you bail last minute, the only thing free falling will be your manhood. Oh yeah, it would probably be wise to have the big meal planned AFTER the jump to mitigate the risk of blowing chunks mid free fall. And unless you rock the wind-blown-out-of-control-hair look well, it might be a good idea to bring a cap for after the jump.
Most importantly, be comfortable. This is the one time where it’s probably okay to wear some athletic clothes on a date – just make sure it came out of your dryer and not out of your gym bag. And if you need to calm the nerves beforehand, bring a flask (or bottle if you need more liquid courage is needed) of Brother Jack for a pre-jump toast. Cheers to an adrenaline-filled experience.
- Gant Velocity Jacket
- ASOS Bomber with Contrast Sleeves
- Nike Limitless Track Pant
- Nike Free Run
- Carhartt Army Cap
- It’s always good to have Brother Jack on your team
Date Idea #4: “Broadway. It’s not a sing-a-long.” (Broadway Show)
If imitating paratroopers isn’t your thing and you’re not ready to risk life and limb for her yet, head to Broadway…just take a pass on Spider-Man because all the acrobatics will remind you that you’re a wuss. Keep it simple and bring it back to the roots: go see The Lion King. It’s a Broadway mainstay and you know the story and music will be good. It’ll be joyful and nostalgic. And if she starts singing along to Hakuna Matata, you know the rest of the date’s going to be problem free.
And if you were thinking to yourself, Black Lapel, what’s with all the casual looks today? Well then here’s your chance: blazer, nice denim, hard-bottomed shoes and maybe a tie if you’re up for it. And if you want to be in a place where there is zero chance of you running into another New Yorker (like your ex), Times Square is right around the corner. Sit on the ruby-red Stairs of TKTS and do some people watching. Ask her which Disney movie was her favorite growing up and which princess was her home girl. Make her feel like one. Just don’t be cheesy about it – cheese should be saved for that slice of cake you share at Junior’s afterwards.
- Black Lapel Navy Blazer
- Black Lapel Navy Gingham Shirt
- Gant True Blue Jeans
- The Tie Bar Black Wool Knit Tie
- Allen Edmonds Fifth Avenue Oxfords
Date Idea #5: “Harlem Shake, It Up” (Dance Class)
Girls love to dance and will appreciate a guy who’s got some rhythm and moves both in and out of class. Just look to the movies: Hitch…Dirty Dancing…Silver Linings Playbook. Take note from this list, but don’t take it to too far. Do not, we repeat, DO NOT try to reenact Patrick Swayze’s final lift. Unless you’ve been seriously working that push press during those Crossfit WODs, you run the HIGH likelihood of failing to replicate Mr. Swayze, and as a result, simultaneously making yourself look/feel weak and her look/feel fat.
There are tons of dance classes to try out. Stick to something like Argentine Tango, where you will hold her close and be the lead. Avoid the Intro to B-Boying class where your amateur attempt at a Nike kick may result in a face kick instead.
On the sartorial front, err on the side of Will Smith’s clean and classic look and less on the side of Bradley Cooper’s Eagles jersey, hoodie and trash bag.
- Club Monaco Navy Cashmere Cardigan
- Uniqlo White V-Neck
- J.Crew Lightweight Chino in Urban Slim Fit
- Converse Jack Purcell Sneakers
- ASOS Washed Double Rope Bracelet
You’ve created some romantic intrigue on that first date. Now you have five more second date ideas that will allow you two to prove the hype is real. And if it doesn’t work out, don’t sweat it. Good times are always right around the corner. And now, you’ll always have a good reason to go skydiving.
Have other date ideas? Have some favorite venues? Share them all with us in the comments!
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